“Empathicity”

There is and has always been a lot of anger in this world. Interestingly, when you look at it with a closer lens, anger turns out to be a secondary emotion. Underneath it is either hurt or fear (or a combination of both). The most intense combination of hurt and fear is resentment. Resentment is a repeated reliving of a scenario that creates a strong dislike of someone or something. 

This kind of active emotion is toxic, doing damage to the one living with it and worsening the situation at hand. A great anecdote to describe this is that carrying resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.

When in the energy of resentment long enough, one will create the seemingly potent energies of discrimination, prejudice, and hatred. These energies are the cornerstone to a fear-driven society and ultimately lead to an impotent experience of disconnection and control of the social environment in an attempt to create a sense of “safety.” These downstream effects of resentment are the tools through which fear is emboldened in our world. 

What can you do to alleviate resentment and stop it from manifesting such negative energies? FACE it with an act of Love. Love is the opposite of fear—so when an entity of fear arises within and around us, the antidote is to FACE it directly with an act of Love.

As you may know from the previous blogs in this series, there are four Acts of Love to counteract the different aspects of fear:

Forgiveness, Acceptance, Compassion, Empathy (FACE)

Using the FACE technique to counteract fear, Empathy is the antidote to the resentments we have towards ourselves and one another. 

Several years ago, I was researching empathy and I discovered that the word for being in a state of empathy actually had two forms: “empathetic” and “empathic”. I gravitated towards the energy of the word empathic, and began using it in my everyday language. To be empathic is to feel the energy of another’s pain, joy, love, fear, and other emotions as if they were your own. It’s the deepest connection we as humans can make with each other. It is truly an act of Love in the highest form. 

And then it hit me—the energy of being electric is electricity, so the energy of being empathic could be called “empathicity”! Just like that, I had a new word to communicate a  powerful energy that allows us to feel and be deeply human. Empathy in action = empathicity.

In feeling another’s emotions, we are able to disengage from resentment and the negative energies that follow it. We see others (and ourselves) as more human, and we understand their behaviors more deeply. When we are empathic toward ourselves and others, resentment melts away and leaves us with the feeling of Love.

Allow yourself to flow with the energy of empathicity any time you feel you need relief from the fear and hatred that’s being peddled around you, keeping your attention away from your wellbeing. This energy will help you to move out of fear-based living and into a life of freedom and fulfillment.

Much Love,

Noel Neu

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