Kindness Vibration

Kindness Is a Virtue

One of the most important things that I’m learning more and more in my life is the incredible importance of kindness. We need to have kindness toward others, and also to ourselves. The more kindness I have for myself, I will naturally bring that out to others in the world, and this creates a virtuous cycle.  

The energy of kindness is on a frequency wave or vibration, like most other things that exist in the world. So that got me thinking—kindness vibration. Then I visualized actually having a kindness vibration, having kindness vibrating inside of me, and then sending it out to others. Then it hit me—a kind vibe. I thought of sending out a kind vibe from within myself to others. I can cultivate kindness within me and then send it out to any and all I come into contact with. 

Something miraculous started to happen when I focused my energy on the kind vibe—I could actually feel it, if only for a moment, and the good news is that the moment is all we’ve really got. So, I realized I can just do it over again if it doesn’t last longer than the moment, and the more I practice it, the easier it is to generate.

What is a Kind Vibe?

So, as I was thinking more on the concept, an acronym came to me: 

Knowing 

Infinite

Nurturing

Devotion

as a

Valuable

Inexhaustible

Brilliant 

Energy

So, let’s look more closely at that. Knowing (experience, belief) infinite (greater than myself, not ending or beginning), nurturing (the energy of love) devotion (commitment) as a valuable (increased, appreciating), inexhaustible (never running out) brilliant (bright and shining, radiating outward, there’s no dullness to it, and it cannot be dulled) energy (the essence of what we are putting out into the world). 

So then I realized, I need those kind vibes with me, as often as I can have them, and I have the power to generate them. I especially need them in times of stress or anxiety, like when I wake up in the middle of the night with thoughts racing, or when there’s a stressful experience occurring in life. I need a kind vibe, first for me, and then for whoever else is involved in the situation. To access these kind vibes, I can go within and think of forgiveness, acceptance, compassion, and empathy, which I call the 4 Acts of Love (more on this in my digital course FACE Your Fears™—sign up for the email list here).

Keeping Your Signal Strong

All of these different things are based on kindness and the vibration of Loving energy. So, then I thought more about giving a kind vibe out to others. I began visualizing it as a signal to alert me how weak or strong my kind vibes are in the moment. It’s almost like a WiFi signal, so let’s call it the KiVi signal. Just like having a certain number of bars on our WiFi means that you have a strong internet connection, we can have the same internally in our KiVi, and when our signal is good, we have a strong Loving connection with ourselves and others. We can tune into this to learn when our signal is stronger and when it is weaker, and we can learn to strengthen it in those times and situations that it shows up weaker.

For me my KiVi signal is strong when I’m doing things like writing, teaching, mentoring, connecting with clients, helping, Loving, and spending time with my daughter and others that I care about. It feels like full strength in those moments. Where is it weak? This is an easy one for me—it’s when I’m driving. It’s nearly unbelievable how it sort of just goes out the window, and, all of a sudden, I’m aggressive, insulted, taking things personally, offended, defensive, and resenting those around me. In reality, it’s all my internal perception of what’s going on, but my kindness is out the window, and I’m aggressive and angry in how I feel and how I drive.

When I Lost the Signal

Here’s a quick story to illustrate this. To set up the story, it came to me in the middle of the night that my KiVi signal is weak, and that I need to strengthen it up. So, the next morning, I started driving my daughter to school, and later on that day, I drove her back from school. I was behind an SUV making a right turn, nobody was coming, there was a green arrow, and this person was just turning extra carefully, very slowly. I wasn’t sure what they were doing; I was just sure they were holding me up. My KiVi dropped off completely. He gave me enough room that I could fit around him, and I screeched my tires and sped off around him aggressively. (This wasn’t the safest driving, and even my daughter said, “wow, Daddy, that’s really fast.”)

About 14 seconds later, the SUV comes up quickly behind me, hits the lights in his vehicle, and it’s an unmarked police officer, as it turns out. I was immediately humiliated, because I was completely in the wrong, being aggressive, and doing things that were unwarranted and unsafe. So, this officer pulls me over, comes out, and is suited up in full tactical gear. (This was not the type of officer who typically hands out traffic tickets.) He looked at me, and he said, “that’s unsafe,” and I admitted, “I was wrong, officer.” My KiVi started to get stronger here. I gave him all of my information, and I just started to have compassion for where he was at, and felt humbled in the situation.

He came back a few minutes later and another officer pulled in and came up. He even cracked a joke about being pulled over by the first officer. The first officer looked at me and just told me, “Merry Christmas,” and handed me the ID back. I looked back at my daughter, and I said, “it’s good to learn from your mistakes, and it’s even better to learn from somebody else’s.” She agreed and we celebrated that little victory in learning an important lesson.

The officer then came by and smiled at my daughter and I said, “I taught her not to do this too, and she’s learning from my mistakes.” Everybody smiled and laughed a bit, and the KiVi signal was at full strength again. Kind vibes were flowing all around, and it just felt really good. There was no ticket, and yet I felt I had really learned a lesson there.

…And then came the very next morning, I drove her to school again and dropped her off, and as I was driving back, as soon as I was approaching a highway, I came up on a work van going slow as molasses (which was actually dangerous getting onto a highway, because the other cars were going very fast). My KiVi signal dropped instantaneously again. 

Now, you might think that because of the recent lesson, I would be able to be mindful in this situation and just deal with it. Nope! I got fired up and sped around him, and then BOOM! Someone hit me. The slow van kept on his merry way, taking his good old time, and now I found myself  pulling over with this other gentleman who ran into me. We get out of our vehicles, and he confronts me saying, “You need to look!” So, I naturally respond, “I’m the one who was looking...” 

And then my KiVi went back up, and I looked at my car and saw that there’s only a little dent and a little scratch. He has nothing visible on his vehicle. I go over to him and tell him, “I’ll fix this up.” We shake hands, he almost gives me a hug, I pat him on the back, and we part ways. I tell him, “Have a good day, sir.” And I meant it. 

I went on Amazon to order my dent repair kit, because there was definitely still something to repair. The point here, however,  is that I had to learn this lesson twice. My KiVi was so weak while driving that I slipped right into aggression. First I had to be pulled over, and then the signal came back up, and then I had the accident, and then the signal came back up again. What did I need here to learn the lesson? 

Keep an Eye on Your KiVi

Well, let’s look again at Kind Vibe: Knowing Infinite Nurturing Devotion as a Valuable Inexhaustible Brilliant Energy. I need to feel that and explore that in myself, and then to share it with you (not just here—if I see you on the road on Southern Blvd too). Wherever it may be, I need to strengthen my KiVi signal for situations like driving, and the good news is that I can do that myself. It begins with using the 4 Acts of Love to get out of fear-based thinking and into a Loving energy. Sometimes, I don’t realize that my vibration is low, and that’s why the signal is important. We can look within and gauge our KiVi so that we can strengthen the signal and pass the vibration on to others.

I invite you this week to try visualizing your own KiVi signal. Begin to tune into how strong or weak it feels in different times, situations, and environments. Become aware of the moments before your KiVi drops, and then begin to implement the 4 Acts of Love in those moments. The quicker we can re-engage our KiVi, the better the situations turn out for ourselves and for others. If you try this, email me at connect@noelneu.com and let me know about your experience. 

Much Love,
Noel Neu, The Songwriting Therapist™