Finding What Resonates With You
Beliefs are a funny thing. We all have them, whether we want to admit it or not. And they are usually implanted in us from a young age, not just from our immediate and extended family, but generations before that. These beliefs become imprinted in us, and as we grow up, we also gather our own beliefs. So what happens when these beliefs are not congruent with who we are, or they are no longer accurate or relevant to our lives? This is where anxiety, rage, anger, discontent, sadness, depression, addictions, codependency, and so forth can enter the scene.
Resonance
This is where the concept of resonance comes in. Resonance is like the frequency of a sound wave. When the resonance is strong, the sound can carry farther and be more pure and intact. Similarly, when we hear or come across something that resonates with us, it means that we are connecting with our truth. We are connecting with what we actually believe and what we feel is important and right for us. If something resonates with you, that is your truth.
How do we know when something resonates with us? It's not always easy, but it is simple. When you come across a piece of information, whether online, in a book, or through a conversation with someone else, pay attention to how it makes you feel. Does it make your chest open up? Does your gut settle? Oftentimes, you’ll say either in your head or out loud, “That makes sense.”
The “Party-Line”
Even when you find something that resonates with you, your mind will sometimes go to your "party line"—your preconceived beliefs that may conflict with what is resonating with you. This is where the “attack and defend” cycle comes in. When we are attached to our beliefs, especially when they are not serving us, all we can do is attack and defend. We end up arguing, criticizing, judging, and the like. We become stuck in these loops, unable to connect with others or communicate effectively, falling into patterns of corruption and manipulation.
It is critical to move beyond our beliefs and allow what resonates with us to unseat those beliefs. This is especially important because when something resonates with you and is your truth, there is nothing more powerful and empowering than that. If we can all do this, one person at a time, we can begin to shift our party-line beliefs—whether they are political, familial, or religious—and connect with our true selves.
Making the Shift
Of course, this is not always easy. It requires us to be vulnerable, to question our beliefs, and to be open to change. However, the payoff is immense! When we let go of beliefs that no longer serve us and connect with what resonates with us, we are able to live a more authentic and fulfilling life. We are able to communicate more effectively with others and create deeper connections. We are able to be true to ourselves and live in alignment with our values.
I encourage you to pay attention to what resonates with you. Listen to your gut, your heart, and your intuition. Allow yourself to question your beliefs and be open to change. The journey may not be easy, but it is worth it. Let us all begin with ourselves, and let the shift toward authenticity and resonance start with us.
Much Love,
Noel Neu, The Songwriting Therapist™